It’s morning. You get up and stumble into the bathroom. The face staring back at you from the mirror is one that you’d rather not see. Snapping around, you shed your nightclothes and jump into the shower. The warm water seems to calm your aching mind, but as you step out, you catch sight of your reflection again.
As you wrap yourself in a towel and squeeze toothpaste on your brush, the rage returns. A million thoughts fly through your mind. “Why wasn’t I born looking like handsome Tom or pretty Sarah? Why did I get the ‘bad’ genes?” Tugging comb through your hair, you glare at those eyes in the mirror. Yes, that’s you. A “you” that you don’t want to see.
We all have those days. Some of us more than others, but it happens to even the best of us. Let’s face it: your physical characteristics may not be what you would have hoped for, but that’s you. Short of makeup or plastic surgery, you can’t change what you look like.
But what about image? Image is more than physical. Image has to do with you. Who you are.
That’s the question. Who are you? Do you define yourself in terms of your face and physique? Or do you delve deeper. True, it isn’t always easy to search beyond skin deep, but considering that few of us are models, looking beyond the physical is essential to the development of a good self-image.
Think about it. If you don’t think much of yourself, what reason do you give others to think much of you? None at all. So what do you do? Can you like yourself in spite of freckles, excess weight or some other issue?
Yes. It’s simple.
And that’s what also makes it hard.
The key is to find your strengths and emphasize them. You have good things about you. Things that are positive. So what if your face isn’t a ‘perfect’ oval. Perhaps you don’t like it, but someone out there does. Suppose no one does. Remember that girl who complimented you on your voice? Your personality? Your good cooking? All of these things are more valuable than having a perfect face that will wrinkle one day.
Your voice isn’t likely to change much, if you care for it. Your personality probably isn’t going to change either. And your cooking will not only put a smile on other’s faces; it will keep it there.
That is the key.
Learn to love yourself for who you are on the inside, rather than on the outside. Find your lasting strengths, the things that mean a lot to you and to others. A pretty face and nice body are great to have, but a caring personality, useful skills and a beautiful soul are worth a whole lot more.